Question: Hoa is my only friend at school. She's also the only person I completely trust. Two weeks ago, I told her I was very unhappy and lonely, and that I even wanted to drop out of school. She promised not to tell anyone … but then she told our teacher about it. We had an argument and I stopped talking to her. Was I right?
(Van Ha)
Counsellor: Dear Ha, I understand your feelings. But think of it this way: maybe Hoa was really afraid that you'd drop out of school. She didn't know what to do to help you. I'm sure she just wanted to help you in her own way, even if it's not the way that you wanted. Try to reconcile with Hoa, talk to her about it, and I hope you'll be good friends again. Good luck!
Question: In my class, the girls are on good terms with all the boys, except me. The girls just don't even notice me, and the boys make jokes about it. I think that's because I'm short and fat, and girls don't find me attractive. I feel very lonely. Please help me.
(Quang Nam)
Counsellor: Well, don't worry too much. Everyone has qualities that make them attractive to other people. A person's true value does not lie in his appearance, but in his achievements and contributions to the community. I don't think it's your physical appearance that makes the girls stay away from you. If you study hard and become an excellent student, girls may notice you and ask you for help. Meanwhile, you should try building up friendships. Take the initiative and engage your classmates in friendly conversations. Ask them questions to find out what they like to talk about – a song, a film or something else – and then discuss that topic. I hope that will help.